Author Bradley Finnearty
A lot of people feel that they could do more with their lives, do more to be happy. They feel like they are stuck in a dead end job that does not use their talents or skills to the full. I know I fall into that category for sure. Oh, when it comes to what I do in my life, my webmaster skills, photography, etc I am very happy. But when it comes to my work life. Not so much. I know that at my age it is hard to break into a field that needs younger more forward thinking minds. I know that even though I have great skills at what I do others have what employers are looking for. But this is not an either or proposition. There are always options open.
To be able to look for those options and move on you not only have to have confidence in yourself but also a certain amount of hope. I truly believe that you need that positive vibe in your life to be able to move on. Your not going to put forth your best foot if you don't have hope and a positive feeling about the future.
It bothers me to see articles like the one written about Zen Master Osho "A Zen master explains why "positive thinking" is terrible advice". The article is written as though people who believe in positive thinking just set and think that they will be rich and it will happen. The article sites a couple of books that they purport make just that claim. I don't know as I have never read either of the books but I have a hard time believing that is the case. I mean I believe that anyone who does think that way is delusional at best, and the article makes that same point.
The article also makes the point that one has to deal with the negativity in their lives too. They can not hold onto anger and negativity and be at peace within themselves. I feel that point is absolutely true. I discussed how negativity from my past affected my hope for a better future in a previous article. I found that in my case getting over the negativity of my past absolutely stopped me from having any sort of future. The same holds true for negative feelings towards others too. You must deal with the negativity in all forms. But isn't that in itself positive thinking? Aren't you trying to achieve a positive mindset by eliminating the negative?
Positive thinking is not what they discussed in the article though. At least not to me. In my case I have to think positive thoughts about my abilities. I have to be positive about my expectations. I have to be as positive as I can be about where I want to go. I mean I don't understand how one can say to themselves that there is no hope for a future based on what I know about myself and still work to have a great future. Can you see it? "I am not the best at what I do, I have never received an award for it so I am not sure I can do it but I am going to try" Really? One has to think positively to have the confidence to achieve.
A prime example of this is a friend of mine who is very good at making inspirational posts made one to Facebook that I found to be very true. It said "You can't expect to live like Fred Sanford and get a Kardashian. You can't expect to look like Precious and get you an Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime. You can't expect to work at McD's and eat steak and shrimps every night. You can't expect to be a HS drop out and act like you are a Harvard Grad with knowing everything. YOU JUST SIMPLY CAN'T EXPECT TO HAVE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS IN LIFE AND BE A MILLIONAIRE IF YOUR NOT DOING ANYTHING ABOUT YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW! Get it together!!!!!! Live righteously and your rewards of benefit will come to you in due to time." Drew was right on with this post and it touched me in more than one way. But it brings into view what I have been saying. Although you have to think positive to have a chance at achieving you have to do what it takes to make it happen. The power of positive thinking is limited to what you are willing to do for yourself.
Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will. --Zig Ziglar
One of the things that I have learned in my dealings with bipolar 2 is that I have to think positive about everything I do. By that I mean that I see myself as being recognized as being the best at what I do. I know it sounds sort of arrogant to say that but I am not saying I am the best. I am saying that I want to be recognized as being the best. To achieve that I have to work hard, I have strive to be better than anyone else. To do my best. Am I the best at what I do? No. Do my clients and friends think I am damn good at what I do? Read the recommendations they have given me and tell me what you think. But that is what positive thinking does for me.
I have many examples of how telling myself that I am going to be the best has actually helped me achieve a certain amount of recognition at what I was trying to achieve. Many years ago I got into the sport of bowling. I did it at the recommendation of a friend who realized I was not happy with my life and suggested that I do some form of sport to give myself confidence. So I started doing it just to get me out of the house and to have something to do that was mine away from married life. I found myself getting better and started practicing more and more. That is the first time I can remember telling myself that I wanted to be recognized as being one of the best at something. I turned that into the goal of maybe being a pro at it. I put in hours of practice a day. Two to three a day. I was in three leagues. Then I started bowling in tournaments and winning money. So my work and positive thinking was working. I credit the positive thinking just as much as I do the work. I know for me that I have to have both of them to achieve anything. I mean I could hot have went as far as I did if I thought that I would never make it. To answer your obvious question. I stopped because my married life ended and I gave up on it. I allowed negative thinking to enter my mind and tell me that I could not do it.
That is positive thinking though. At least to me. It is not about thinking you are going to be rich and then setting around the house knowing that it will happen without doing anything about it. You have to do the work. You have to put forth the effort. But you can't see yourself as a failure and hope to achieve your goals.
There are some that would say that is confidence and not positive thinking. But again, to have confidence you have to be positive about what you are trying to achieve. You can't have that confidence and see yourself as a failure with negative thoughts in your mind.
There are many types of positive thinking though. In my time working with people to develop their websites I have seen how they inspire themselves to be positive. Many use their spirituality and religious beliefs. Many use their respect of other people in the business they are in. Many use family members that they love and respect as that motivation to be positive and succeed. That is what you have to have to succeed.
I personally have to be positive and think positively to succeed at anything. Not just because it helps to have a positive mindset, but also it helps me fight the feeling of hopelessness that my bipolar 2 brings at me during my down times. I have to not only believe in myself but that I will achieve what I want.
So is positive thinking awful advice? No. Emphatically NO. Not for me anyway. I have to have positive thinking to at least feel like I have a reason to keep going. That is also called motivation. In other words to me motivation and inspiration are positive thinking.
About the author
I am a certified webmaster who has lived a life dealing with bipolar depression. My goal is to not only help others dealing with bipolar and depression but to help those around them to understand what is going with their loved ones. I write about how I deal with it and hope that it inspires you to understand that you don't have to let it control you. You control it. I write the way I talk. I want you to feel like I am talking with you in a conversation, not preaching at you in a way that makes you feel like you have to do what I tell you. I hope you enjoy my blog posts about not only bipolar but all things that I write about.
Do you engage in positive thinking? Do you think it helps you? How do you motivate and inspire yourself to be positive?